But before I go...

I'd had this in mind when originally projecting how I was going to end The Dumpee Diaries but of course, true to the way things in my life work, I got my pictures back longer than I wanted.
Here are photos of my gradtation day and the end of my senior year, friends and family alike.
Want to know what made me smile? Alex isn't in a single one and the fact that I'm genuinely happy in each one of them is the best feeling in the world. (:
Peace to all. ♥

"When your hats are in the air, nobody's gonna care."

June 4th, 2010.

It seemed like the entire town was there but maybe it was just me. I put on a dress that drove me nuts because I couldn't breathe, with shoes that only further irritated my preliminary mosquito bites for the summer. I donned an icky burnt orange cap and gown that looked huge on me. But once I heard the band playing Pomp And Circumstance, just like I had done years before, it made things a bit clearer. The valedictorian and salutatorian speeches were nostalgic and cheeky, but entertaining nonetheless, and three hours passes by without a hitch. As I made my way to the stage and got my diploma, I saw people cheering for me. And I did it. Four years, two of them being the most influential thus far.

And so indeed I made it. I hugged so many people, said an awkward goodbye to my high school crush, and threw my hat in the air, (and actually caught it) But with so many people around me, don't think I didn't notice who was missing. Alex and his parents didn't go but it's okay. I suppose that's more fitting. I mean, what would closure be if the bane of my existence actually showed up to something amd was nice?

So it's over. I went home, ate with family then celebrated and my bestie's house by playing Rock Band for a while until I almost fell asleep on his couch around 3 AM. I couldn't have enjoyed this type of closure anymore.

And now a toast, to the summer and the rest of my life. And one final goodbye to this blog. I have no reasons to continue writing the Dumpee Diaries. After all, while I didn't find my happily ever after, I found closure. And I've got nothing but the unknown of the future to keep me going. Cheers and thanks everybody. It's been one hell of a ride. So signing off one last time, this is Jen. No more No less.

Closing Credits

It's official. As of June 2nd, 2010 at 10:47 AM, I no longer have to set foot in the halls of my high school, free to finally be the individual I never really could.On my very last day of high school, I didn't cry. Rather, I stared at the halls around me. I know I should have been the least bit nostalgic but I couldn't help but think, man this place isn't worthy of the glory some people place on it. As I walked by, I started remembering things that happened in certain places throughout the years.
I kept true to my word. In four years, I made a name for myself, remained true to everything I ever believed in and didn't let high school eat me alive.
As I took one last lap, I saw the corner where I wrote my preliminary attempts at blogging my Freshman year. I remember making some after school phone calls behind the gym with a "forbidden telecommunication device" when I got my cell phone sophomore year. And I remember the days I spent with Alex Junior year at the picnic tables or when he walked me to my classes, along with my numerous games of scrabble that kept me preoccupied after the split. And of course, senior year where I blogged about it all and came to figure out that life works in mysterious ways. It's over. Thank God. Now? Graduation is next (:

Packing Up

I only have three official days left of school starting tomorrow. My cap and gown are hanging in my mom's closet and I've already started planning out a few things. Aaaannd I just accidentally just set a spatula on fire. So maybe I'm not ready to move out of the house just yet but the fact that it's a closer possibility than ever is exciting. Even so, it seems a bit strange that I'm leaving high school. I accomplished my main goal: survive high school without letting it eat you alive. I'm also ending this blog within the next week and it too has seen it's goal: documenting my life post-breakup and seeing myself out of it. While I admit, I may have kept this going for quite some time, it's hard to let go of the progress that's happened in a year. Still, it's gonna be worth it.

I find myself surrounded by yearbooks, captions written by people I know in my own yearbook and endless announcements of graduation rehearsal, invitations and tickets in case the weather's bad. Who would have ever thought I would be here, with or without Alex, happy or not... Who would have ever thought I'd be here now? I surely didn't. I've been so busy trying to see and plan my future that I forgot to see my own present. Now it's all happening. Hold on, Jen. Your time is coming.

Funny Girl

Cap and gown? Check.
Class ring? Check.
Invitations? Check.
Decorations for grad party? Check.
Evil Teacher who wanted to fail me but didn't? Covered.
Memory book? Got it.
Yearbook? You betcha.
Person who gets me? You're stuck there.

It's my last few days before graduation and before I throw high school away and get ready to move, I have everything ready to go... minus that. Cheers to moving on. lol
These are the few days before i let my blog go.
I've decided to officially end my blog and stop writing on June 6th, the day after my graduation party and the last day anything significant happens before I start college. Get ready world. I've got a new story brewing, a book coming, and a new blog in the works.
Now where did I leave my Glee soundtrack?

Pumpkin

Last night was my senior prom. I didn't go, choosing to stay home and think every so often to how my friends could be possibly having a good time. I'm okay with the decision, given that everything just worked out that way. Lately I've been faced with some personal issues, like someone harrasing me on my formspring account and filling out graduation invitations. I'm losing touch with reality to a certain extent. Like for some reason, I half expected a fairy godmother to show up and send me to the ball where I would meet my prince charming and fall in love.
Like that ever happens in real life. Either way, I'm a week and a half away from my personal escape. No more Alex in my closet, no more personal ghosts, just the blissful unknown and freedom.
Just please don't turn my carriage into a pumpkin.

Warwick Avenue

I'm almost done with senior year. I find it funny how this past weekend, I managed to cross off a big part of my list of things to do before graduation. I went to Regionals for Journalism and went out with a bang at this year's Senior talent Show. With the closing sense of nostalgia, I feel more powerful than ever.


This was my second year attending academic regionals and I had a blast. I went and competed in journalism which was quite a change, given the usual stuffiness of public speaking I usually compete in. I was surrounded by journalism maniacs, just like me and for the first time in a long time felt like I belonged. My teammates and I had fun walking the college campus where the meet was held and shared some incredible laughs. Then we went to this restaurant where it had indoor games and somehow I found myself comfortable. Okay, so I may have lost horribly playing mini-golf (I think I was 30 over par) but I did redeem myself at go-karts! However, it did slip my mind that this Saturday in particular was Alex's birthday. Hah. Talk about loss of thought.
The Sunday afterwards was one night I've been looking forward to for years: my senior talent show. After cringing in horror with the reality that one of my biggest performances was that day, I decided not to be rude and text Alex, to ask how his birthday went. We've been getting along fairly well so it seems to be like a harmless enough question to ask. What I got? His rude, aloof, mildly impolite self. He referred to my question as stupid and redundant. 
What I did? I ignored it and went on with my day. Like I reeally needed more stress.But (and there's always a BUT) things only got worse though as my day progressed. I left the house without my class ring, something I haven't taken off since I got it in January. By the time I realized that it was in it's ring box back home, it was too late to go back.
At sound check, my microphone wouldn't work with the amp. I'd also forgotten one of my outfits for the first song I planned to sing, despite steaming it and hanging it on my bed to take with me. The sound crew's music person was AWOL, meaning there was a strong possibility that my instrumental track was missing too. The iPod cord to connect to the sound system was faulty so there went my backup plan. The sound crew couldn't get the wireless microphone to work for my second song so there was a possibility that my entire participation in the senior talent show was ruined.
OF COURSE, I spoke too soon. After attempting dress rehearsal without music, without a microphone and without anything good happening, I changed out of my second dress. I'd searched like crazy for the perfect outfit for my second song and was pretty attached to the dress I found. Just as I was unzipping the back of my dress when my zipper got stuck. I turned over to see what happened and literally my zipper burst completely. I wanted to cry...
With only half an hour until opening curtain, I called my mom. She was already at the show and NOT going to just take me home to get another outfit. With that information at hand, I didn't bother to tell her my dress was now revealing most of my back. So now what?
I called the one person I knew would help me out that wasn't already in the audience: my old friend Val. She picked me up within 5 minutes. We made a mad dash to my house (including her hilarious as hell road rage comments). I got the extra dress I needed, some cash, a backup dress in case and a jacket. Funny enough, I STILL forgot my class ring. We stopped at every gas station and dollar store in between my house trying to find some place with safety pins. Lo and behold, we got them and using Val's spare change from her car (which I'm sure she was thrilled to get rid of)
I made it with ten minutes until opening curtain. My performance was a success. I managed to pull off the 2 wardrobe changes, the music guy came with all the music, the tech crew got ONE cordless mike to work and I managed to pull off my biggest worry. Here are the two songs I did for the talent show. The dress that was pinned together was the yellow/black/white ensemble for "Don't Rain On My Parade".







After everything that day, I was riding on a wave of confidence. Very much in the deja vu that tends to happen to me, it reminded me of one of the last things Alex attended. He showed up to last year's Junior talent show but then immediately left. We broke up a few days later. While I knew nobody aside from my parents was in the audience was waiting for me, it didn't depress me like last year. It was good to have my own moment to think for myself. I've had enough of this crap.
I haven't called Alex since that day and I'm not looking back, but on my way home, I did sing "Warwick Avenue" by Duffy. I'm not going to post the lyrics. You can do that yourself but I can say that the talent show was my wake up-call to not come back to this never ending cycle I've been in for a year. If you listen to the song, I think you'll get the story.

You're my personal form of Gravity

Today, I changed my Facebook status from single to it's complicated. I'm not seeing anyone nor am I fooling around with anyone. It's just that... well, it's complicated.
What would you say if everything you thought you knew was wrong? And what would you say if just one detail changed everything about your life?
I found out something that just made me think of alot of things at the moment.
Like I said... it's complicated.
Let's just say that I find it odd that the very same person who let me go into freefall by letting me go has also kept my feet on the ground and weighed me down to reality, only to have his agony make me stronger. He's my gravity and I just don't know waht to think about that. Especially with what I know know and what I can't share with the world. It's not something he did. It's just that after all this time and after the closure I found, it's like gravity. You can't go on without it and you don't think about it but when you do, you realize how every step you take from that moment on and everytime you fall and pick yourself right back up is because of that one little factor. And I hate it that he's it.
Yup. My gravity. I don't have to like it, but it's there. It gives him too much importance.

Look at the stars... look how they shine for you...

One of the strangest nights happened to me last night. I went to the movies with an old visionary of my past., just shooting the breeze. We went to the mall kind of late to catch one of the last movies of the night. It was quiet and somewhat relaxing to go to to the mall. It was quiet and somewhat unsettling to go so late. No one was around so we walked the mall together, talking and eventually we went in and watched the movie. We talked and laughed and still I find it odd that we both could relate entirely to the characters. It was quiet and subtle and exactly the right moment to be each other. In a mall with no one around on a quiet Saturday night, accompanied by someone who changed my life, I was finally unafraid to be vulnerable.
I got home and we spent the entire night on the phone... until my battery died. The conversation's contents will never be spoken of again but I can tell you that when my phone finally died, I couldn't sleep. It's strange how when you think life is beginning to settle down, there's a curveball thrown at you. I've contemplated this though before but never like this.

Don't Feel Afraid

So the milestones symbolizing one year blogging and one year of being single have come and gone. It was indeed surreal for me but now before me lies the rest of my life, unscarred so far and only the greatest gift anyone could ever recieve... the unknown.

On March 23rd, I walked the halls of school and went through the motions of another day. I went the whole day without anybody knowing what day it was or how far I had come. I went the day just like everyone else. It was liberating and a proud moment for me.

On March 26th, I ran into Alex and while it wasn't the greatest thing for me to indulge myself in irony, I went through the motions. I got to see my afformentioned long lost friend (the one who met my Russian penpal, haha). We laughed we talked, we caught up and I had a great time. I went on to win 1st place in Editorial Writing and advance to Regionals for the second year in a row. Score.

But, with everything great come other things we have to deal with. Nate and I had a conversation and he finally realized I'm not slowing down anytime soon and it's best to just let me keep going.

Translation? I scared off another guy. It's a yay/eh type of moment. While (and I'l scream this if I have to) I'M CLEARLY NOT READY for a relationship, a guy who hasn't given up on me after months is kind of scary. Being involved in all this relationship nonsense (or at least getting close) drove me nuts but then again, in the words of John Mayer

"Changes in life are like extra strength Gold Bond Medicated Powder. The burning means it's working."

In case you're wondering where I got this from, I'm on Twitter ^^. Still, very true minus the gross underlying thought behind it. lol

So, what's next? Who knows, but all I know is I've got alot of things to wrap up before school and everything else.

Day 365

Happy Anniversary, love.
It's been one whole year since the day he walked out that door.
Today is day 365. A new day that has yet to begin, and an old year added to my memory.

Prom?

Today, I logged into yahoo and saw this great story of a guy who asked a girl to Prom on National TV. This got me thinking about Prom.

It's funny because all my friends are getting ready. One bought a prom dress, the other is trying to figure out how to match her dress to her fiancee's Marine uniform... and of course, I sit by and watch. I decided not to go to Prom this year. I went last year and I had a blast

I decided not to go this year to just avoid the issues that come with Prom. I'd rather not get into the issue of attempting to find a date and plus it would save my parents tons of money for my college tuition. So I'm skipping it. So the question I'm facing right now is I'm thinking of throwing my own bash, my own personal form of celebration. It's not like I talked to all the people going to prom so it's not like it's going to be a major loss. So it's a good thing. I miss all this hubub.

Spring Break

Spring Break is over (Thank goodness!)
I think I just about drove myself insane. I can't stand not doing anything because it makes me overanalyze and think too much. I get myself into too many troubles.
Like tomorrow, I'm going to be able to jump back into work (Ah, how I love my job. ^^) And go to band practice. (Eh, not fun. Varsity band has sucked the fun out of everything) And then, the rest of my life.
This week, I've got challenges that I hadn't really thought of until right now.
Today is March 21st.
In 3 days time, I will be marking the one year anniversary of my split with Alex, marking 365 days of ups downs, lots of music, lots of phone calls and this crazy thing I call life.
On the 26, I will be celebrating the one year anniversary of this very blog that helped me figure myself out and get thigns straight as I documented it all.
On the 26th, I'll also be heading to Laredo for District UIL, hopefully to advance to Regionals again like I did last year.

One question: How did I end up planning this big opportunity to go out with my teammates and enjoy a night with them... and invite Alex along as a part of our complicated, red-tape attatched friendship... and not realize the day until several days later?
I'll have to explain that later (mostly because I still don't get it)

"... come on in. I've gotta tell you what a state I'm in."

Today, I had this very lengthy conversation with a friend of mine.
He's gay and currently happy with the love of his life.
My friend is also an ex-boyfriend of mine.
Today I found myself in another one of my brooding moods where I was mad at the world and just upset for an inexplicable reason. I found myself struggling a certain concept and I explained it to him.

I have all the potential in the world. I have these dreams, these ambitions and this potential to do so much. I've come a long way from what originally started in humble beginnings. Potential. Possibility. That's all that rings when I think about the Fall and the rest of my life. Yet, I find myself wanting something that I never really thought I would want because I never had it. The Dumpee Diaries, my story of trying to figure out life after being left by someone who was looking for something else didn't just start with Alex. The truth is that I basically grew up with that because of a man who left very early in life.
My parents divorced when I was very young. From what I can remember, at the ages of 4 and 5 they were already divorced. My mom raised me basically by herself. My dad, disappeared and never bothered to come back. I was raised by a woman who took the situation, a strong woman and not a single father figure. Since then, it's safe to say that every influential male in my life has left me. My dad, disappeared into parental oblivion, not even bothering with child support or even a letter. All my life, I've kicked myself, thinking that maybe he knew a sinking ship when he saw it and it's my fault he doesn't bother attempting to be a father. I grew up. I started earning titles, becoming my mother's pride and joy and being the child anyone would want. Still, no matter what trophy I earned or stellar report card I brought home, not one phone call or letter came for me.
I've struggled with this my entire life, knowing if my own father wouldn't stick around and see his first born grow up and become the adult her mother helped her be... then who's to say that any boyfriend or father figure would. Alex was the closest thing I ever had to someone who might have taken care of me and made me feel safe. I know it's stupid to look for it but I feel like I'm missing something and it scares me that I'm going to go my entire life with that void of acomplishing so much but still not being good enough to be taken care of. I know I'm foolish, stupid beyond belief to pin all this on a man I haven't even met and that I've got to make my own luck and overcome my obstacles and that it's stupid to pin this on Alex. I just...
My nights are hell because I know that no matter where I am, I know my own father isn't thinking of me and I know that more than likely someone else isn't either.

I told my friend this, and while he knew about my dad not being around, he didn't know what to say either. He struggled with it. He told me sometimes you just have to be open to happiness. I'm open to what life has to bring me. By day the concept works. By night, it's the mirror opposites that keep me up at night wondering what I did to feel so... empty.
 Truth is, I envy him. He has two parents. He had siblings and now he has the love of his life. While he can't be completely honest with himself because of his parents and the sometimes unfair prejudice that comes with homosexuality, he has more than I will ever have. I have potential. He has love from all sides. I don't blame my mom in any of this and I love her for all her strength and deep comittment to having me for a kid but... sometimes a girl needs her dad. Sometimes it's hard to lie to yourself and say you're complete when you don't know about half of where you came from. Sometimes, it just makes for one hell of a long night when you're awake, staring at the ceiling and praying to God that someone sends you a text or calls just to say they were thinking of you and wanted to make sure you're okay.
I'm still secretly praying for that phone call from my dad someday. As a matter of fact, my dad went looking for my mom a few weeks ago at our old house where my aunt lives. He wanted to settle the child support issue. He didn't ask to speak to me once. He handled the affair with legal jargon, lawyers and numbers. He left his number with my aunt to give to my mom. When she asked me to put the paperwork away in her purse, I put his number in my cell phone address book in the event that he ever calls, I'll know it's him. I'm still waiting.
What's sad is that I know I'll be waiting for that call for the rest of my life, just like I know that I'll be up many more nights hoping someone sends me a text that they're thinking of me and they'll take care of me like no one else ever did. At least I can live and hold a smile during the day, not having to face the long nights ahead.

The mantra lives on...

To what do I owe everything twisted in my life?
If I only had a nickle for every time I have said this...
Just when you think life might get back to normal, something crazy happens that throws everything you've ever thought out the window.
In this case, something so unusual happpened, I thought it was a glitch.
Alex texted me.
It's been a good while since he and I have had a good conversation where neither of us was throwing expletives at each other, and he NEVER texts me if he can avoid it.  I'm on Spring Break and I've been busy with work and friends and life that I haven't seen a need to text him or even talk to him. Sure enough to my surprise he texted me and *gasp* it turns out the twist wasn't in my life but his.
His girlfriend has some bad habits... something that shocked him (and out of a certain respect, I'm not going to post what the issue is because I know some people in our circle read this) Yet, he came to me to actually ask advice as a civilized human being. And I gave him my advice, he can take it as he will and I wish him the best, honestly.
Then maybe ten minutes later he went back to attempting jabs at me which doesn't surprise me. I'm just shocked that he's acting so civilized and for a long period of time (long by his standards) he was human towards me. Who knows what else is coming but my statement still stands.

"Just when you think life's about to get back to normal, something crazy happens."

You can quote me on that one.
I just got another text so... we'll see where this goes and if he can (not to be rude or anything) actually grow up.

I'm Not alone in standing strong and feeling weak

Good morning world,

I woke up after another night of staying up so late and thinking and feeling lonely.
I know it's not good for me, but I'm still stuck in the polar parallels of happy by day, lonely by night.
I'm approaching the one year anniversary of the split and the one year anniversay of this blog and I'm STILL going through these mini depressions at night. For months now, I stay up most of the night, thinking and feeling lonely. The silence bothers me but just the darkness of night is what makes me feel so alone. It's the thought that at night no one is willing to be at my side, willing to answer a phone call or check up on me at night just to make sure that I'm at peace. Everyone is asleep in their own world, in the darkness of night and the possibilities of the tomorrow. It is at night when everything is revealed and the truth is out in the open. While in the daytime, there is light, there are also shadows that people can hide behind. At night, there are no shadows. At night, I'm vulnerable, bidding my time until the sun comes out.
But even so, I'm happy that it's only at night. I'm sure I'll shake it off eventually, like when I get to college. By day though, I'm just so happy to be surrounded by many people, many opportunities and so much potential. During the day, I don't feel alone.
I know I'm not alone.
You know, there's this blog I read called Life through rose-colured Ray Bans and while she posts happy, beautiful and inspiring posts, there's a sense of human vulnerability that I can relate to so well. I know I'm not the only one who can be happy and vulnerable at the same time and that alone is a thought that makes me feel so... comforted.
I think everyone doesn't want to be alone, they just look for different facets of life to answer this univeral need.

We Didn't Start the Fire

Almost kind of like a twisted form of deja vu, I have been involved in yet another accident. In case you don't remember, last year shortly after breaking up with Alex, I was involved in a small accident that kinda made me crack a bit. Well, once again, I was involved in a bit of a situation that all started with a Hot Pocket.

This also comes with something I've neglected to mention. I recently started an internship in town at the radio station, working on stories and even appearing on the airwaves. Today in particular, I was recording the news segment for tomorrow. When I came out of the studio, I was greeted by a huge cloud of black, icky smoke. My boss and I (instead of hitting the floor and crawling out like they teach you in elementary school) ran out like idiots, coughing through the smoke. I just ran for my purse. It was only after running out like idiots that we discovered that the microwave got stuck on 2 minutes and set the hot pocket on fire.

My boss then came out with a charred hot pocket that was black... really black. I wish I had taken a picture of it, because it was just such an odd sight.

I'm okay, I just got a bit of smoke inhalation and my eyes were really irritated for a while but everyone's okay. For some reason though, I found the whole thing funny. lol

After we turned off the smoke alarm and cleared the smoke out with a fan, and opened every window in the office, my boss and I just realized we almost had a fire and died because of something incredibly trivial like a Hot Pocket. lol

That isn't exactly what I imagined for my death and in a huge sense of irony, the DJ on shift played "We Didn't Start The Fire" by Billy Joel on the airwaves. When I got home and turned on Pandora, my station played the live version of that song. I couldn't stop laughing!

Last year, I was involed in an accident and couldn't stop crying. This year, I get into an accident and can't stop laughing. Is this a sign of my psyche or something? lol

One last laugh, though. Once I got on Facebook, I saw my boss updated her status. Our station has a twitter page and the slogan is "our news tweets louder." Here are the posts she put up on Facebook (and yes, I blotted out names and faces) (Editor's Note: Yes, I'm loving that my boss thinks I rock! lol)

At any cost, it was an interesting day and I really discovered that yes, it is possible to almost die as the result of a hot pocket and laugh about it later... and do this all while single. I don't see why people complain about work so much because I'm loving it!

I wonder if the things that remind me of you remind you of me

Happy Spring break everyone!

Well, as you know by now, I celebrated my 18th birthday this past friday (and thanks to those who sent me texts, Facebook wall posts and myspace comments. (:

This birthday was surreal. I celebrated among friends old and new and opted to go bowling instead of to dinner. I was surrounded by so many people that may not have all been together had they not known me but I was thrilled just be with friends. Still, true to the nature of my life, nothing is ever perfect, but I prefer this goof over anything worse any other day.
They mispelled "birthday on my cake and I didn't even realize it until the day after my party when I was uploading all of the pics.

Fun stuff! lol. And what makes it worse is that my the cake decorator actually asked my mom to write on a piece of paper what she wanted to be put on the cake and then the decorator asked their supervisor to write it on the cake. At any cost, this just makes everything that much more enjoyable.

Still, even then, with yet another year of life comes the ever present thoughts of my past. I realized that Alex didn't call or even text me about my birthday. It's not like I was expecting anything but it only shows how hard some things are to let go. Alex's dad was nice enough to send me not one but two birthday messages over Facebook. One was the day before (in case he missed it) and the other was on the actual day of my birthday. It was really nice of him to do that and I honestly appreciate the efforts he made that his son chose not to. Facebook was kind enough to bring him Alex up when I saw one of my friends became a fan of the page titled " I wonder if the things that remind me of you remind you of me." This blog wouldn't really be about my life after him anymore if little things like this didn't pop up and make me think about my life as it is now compared to what it was then.
It's moments where I see the parallels of this girl who was me

and this person of now

Last year, all I had was him. This year and now, I have so much more.
I wonder if he ever thinks about how life can become so different in a year or if he just stays stagnant in his own ways. I wonder if the things that remind me of you remind you of me.

Eighteen Candles... and two more big ones.

This week, I'll be celebrating my eighteenth birthday.
Eighteen. I can't believe it has been eighteen years, but in my perspective, a year since everything that ensued after.
This time this year, I was moody and fussy because I was turning seventeen, a whole 3 years older than Alex for a couple of weeks. I felt so old and like such a cougar. But things went their course. March is significant because on the 23rd of this month, I will happily celebrate one entire year of what has turned out to me one of the most significant years of my life. One year ago, Alex and I broke up. It was the best decision he ever made. On the 26th, I will celebrate a year of blogging with the Dumpee Diaries.
My eighteenth birthday and so much more this month... I don't know what to think. I just know that I'm going to have a hard time thinking of what to wish for when I blow out the candles this Friday. Everything is looking up and I can't believe my luck is changing.

Stranger than Fiction but sweeter. [Updated 2/27/10]

I have been meaning to blog for ages but I haven't been able to sit myself down and actually write about everything. Not to mention, I'm only beginning to grasp what's going on. I've managed to realize in this month though that just when you think life is going to go back to normal, there is no such thing as normal.
First of all, I hope everyone who read this had a decent Valentine's Day. Personally, mine came with a fair bit of red tape. Add in the complicated twists and my life's oddities are beginning to resemble a horrible Mexican Soap Opera. A week before Valentine's Day, I realized two of my exes (Sam, the yo-yo of commitment and the ex who asked my out under the influence of alcohol) are bffs. Wait! There's more. They discovered they both dated me and are bonding over it. There's one more twist in that. Sam wants me back. All this right before Valentine's Day!
Obviously, I shut the door on Sam before he could even step on my doormat. Good thing too. (this just keeps getting better)
I found out that shortly after I turned him down he was engaged!
:0
Engageeedd!
Then, Valentine's Day weekend rolled around and despite my best attempts, I was available for the weekend. Thus, Nate jumped on the opportunity. I tried to scare him off like I scare everyone off by telling him to talk with my parents.
He did, and sure enough, the Friday before Valentine's Day he surprised me with this massive flower arrangement. It was bigger than what my dad got my mom. X< What shocked me though was he tracked down my favorite flower (a certain type of lily) down to the point where he called in 4 different cities in the area to track it down. He then proceeded to buy me this adorable bear (that also happened to be at least 4 times bigger than what Alex got me last year) and he took me out to dinner... and then bowling... all this without me having to pay any part of the bill for the first time in my life. It was great and he's a nice guy but something happened that day that made me really put to the breaks on any type of relationship.
As you know, I was accepted to Texas State. While I was pretty happy with it, I wanted to wait towards the end of the month to see if I was accepted anywhere and if I didn't hear from them, I would just go on my merry way to Texas State. Since then, I have been accepted to:
-University of Miami
-Loyola University
-Texas A&M International University
-Baylor University
And the very Friday that Nate took me on a date, I received my acceptance letter from the University of Missouri, my dream school where I will be studying at the best Journalism School in the US.
Having been accepted to that school, I realized that there is no way I can get attached right now to anyone. Don't get me wrong. I tried very hard to convince myself to fall for Nate. He is a great guy and I feel like he deserves someone who can be with him without any complications. I feel like such an idiot but I know I'm making the right decision in not dating.
Apparently though, life just can't get anymore twisted.
Very recently, I reconnected with a friend of mine who I've known for years. Only to my surprise, she and my Russian pen pal, another good friend of mine are suddenly friends. This comes to a total shock to me. Two people from very different parallels of my past come together, and all without me even getting involved. While I think it's great that two of the most inteligent and interesting people of my life are now friends, it did kind of phase me a bit. They talk to each other more than they talk to me! Haha.
Like I said, my life is getting stranger than fiction but it's things like friendship and these new adventures that keep me going. When you put all the broken and random pieces together, it makes something very interesting. I can't wait for some new adventures. Right now, that's the only thing keeping me hanging on. I'll be leaving soon and while it's scary to leave the small town in Texas, leave my family behind and leave everything I have ever known, it's an experience that I'd be foolish to give up on. I just have to find the strength within myself to make it happen.